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The Contemplative Question of Why Worry God Help Us!

The Contemplative Question of Why Worry?

By: Elizabeth L. Creecy

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

1 John 4:18 NKJV

Why Worry?

In 2019, I found myself on a journey with the end goal of retraining my mind and heart not to be troubled (John 14:27) and casting all my cares on to God (1 Peter 5:7). I can honestly say worry has become a more fleeting thought. I am not 100% free from it, but I rarely get consumed with worry and fear.

Yes, I have times when concerns come, but I now cast all my cares and worries on the Father (1 Peter 5:7). Usually, my concerns or worries disappear within a few hours at max, unless I am sleep-deprived. Oh me, that’s another story when I am tired! It’s quite a peaceful way to live. I encourage and invite you to also embark on such a journey! If I can do it, you can do it!

I know many people worry. I have read studies that the average person spends 4 hours a day worrying, and the average parent spends 9 hours worrying!! Come on, guys, that’s wasting your bandwidth. That’s a lot of time worshiping the devil when you could be praising the Lord Jesus! Plus, it is merely practicing poor stewardship with your time, energy, and even finances. Stewardship is vital to God. Now, don’t beat yourself up. Sometimes we don’t realize we are in a battle with the devil until we are already spiraling and consumed by the fear. That’s okay, repent and shift your eyes back on Jesus. If you can’t get out of the death trap, call a friend who is strong in the Lord to encourage you.

 

"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness (Matthew 25:21)!'

For me, everything I worried about or became overly anxious about rarely – if ever – happened the way I imagined it would. Now, I know this is not always the case. As I am sure, there are times when fears happened, but I can’t recall any. I know in those moments, what I feared and the reality I walked through never wholly aligned. I always made things worse than they were! That tells me that those events were not nearly as bad as I imagined, but that I allowed fear to consume me and stop me. Plus, it is true you can do all things through Christ (Philip. 4:13), but you have to remember to rely on God’s power and not your own. Invite Him into everything!

Now, I want to take a few seconds to clearly say fear can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Job makes this very clear.

What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me (Job 3:25).

Job said that, and it happened just as he said – the thing he feared came upon him!

Please remember, fear and faith are equal in dimension. They both demand fulfillment. They are both spiritual principles. One represents God, and one represents the devil, but they both demand fulfillment.

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1).

Fear can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We humans do work to create our most dominant thoughts (Prov 23:7). I believe this is why Proverbs spends so much time teaching us how to protect our hearts, walk righteously, keep our focus on God, and understand the power of godly wisdom!

20 My son, pay attention to what I say;

turn your ear to my words.

21 Do not let them out of your sight,

keep them within your heart;

22 for they are life to those who find them

and health to one’s whole body.

23 Above all else, guard your heart,

for everything you do flows from it.

24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;

keep corrupt talk far from your lips.

25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;

fix your gaze directly before you.

26 Give careful thought to the paths for your feet

and be steadfast in all your ways.

27 Do not turn to the right or the left;

keep your foot from evil.

(Proverbs 4:20-27)

Both the Bible and Neuroscience say we work to create our most dominant thoughts (Proverbs 23:7), which is why our hope in Jesus has to be bigger than our fears. For that to occur, you must trust the Father.

Your hopes need to be based on God’s known will and knowledge for mankind on the earth. Knowing God’s will requires reading the Word because it tells you what His (God’s) plans are for mankind. What’s even better is as you start to read the Word, your mind will become renewed, and then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect (Romans 12:2). But understand God cares about what is in your heart. If you can’t read the Word as much as you wish, let Him know. Invite Him into everything!

As a believer in Christ, you must guard your heart. The word “heart” in Proverbs 4:24 and Proverbs 23:7 is referring to your soul – your mind, will, and emotions. Remember, it is Jesus who can liberate you by setting your soul free from sin (John 8:34-36). It’s easy to forget this: when you participate with fear thoughts, you are sinning (Ephesians 5:11; Philippians 4:6-8)!

It’s my experience and what I observe in my clients that all worrying is a waste of time and is entirely unproductive. Oh, that’s right, the Bible echoes this truth too (Matt 6:27).

And who of you by worrying can add one hour to [the length of] his life (Matt 6:27)?

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to meditate on what I hope NOT to happen, primarily when my thoughts could manifest it! I notice, many of my clients occupy a large portion of their bandwidth with concerns, anxieties, worries, or stressors. These thoughts either happen, do not happen, or not to the degree they anticipated. Either way, isn’t it better to spend your bandwidth growing in God’s security than Satan’s torment? Isn’t His power more potent than that of the enemy?

Usually, I make a point to check in with my clients (and even myself) when I see that their worries didn’t happen as they feared. It can help one objectively learn how to navigate concerns, bring awareness to their thought patterns, and help them see they could benefit from learning thought-control (2 Cor. 10:5). Some even start to see the nonsense of worrying. It’s all about the future, and what if this or that happens! Just stop it! I believe in prophetic abilities, but when it’s driven by worrying… nope, I don’t buy it! I don’t buy it because God is NOT motivated by fear but by faith. Since He is inspired by faith, we are, too, be moved by faith as well!

A few of the significant issues I saw in myself and the clients who were addicted to worrying failed to trust God, themselves, and were selfish. They were inflexible and unaccepting of “tough seasons” or when life didn’t go as they wished. They wanted God’s will to be precisely what they hoped their life would look like. But, God will not mold to your will for your life; it’s the other way around. Does this sound a little bit like the book of Job?

These clients focused on what was missing in their life. What they were lacking. When they could have been praising and glorify God for what they had! You see, a grateful and thankful heart is a must-have mindset in God’s kingdom. You have the mind of Christ (1 Cor. 2:16). I don’t know about you, but there is not a single place in my Bible where Jesus complains. He always asks the Father to bless what He already has (John 6:11).

But ultimately, they fail to trust God!

It’s hard to give thanks to someone you don’t trust because you are too busy trying to protect yourself…from God! Omniscient, omnipotent God? You don’t need to protect yourself from Him. He loves you. He is love (1 John 4:8). Plus, you cannot outrun Him or keep things from Him. He knows you better than you know yourself (Jeremiah 1:5). Take everything to Him through prayer. Think of prayer as an invitation to God, which invites Him into what is weighing you down. He will always R.S.V.P yes, and He will always help you if you let Him.

My point is this: What you are worried about, and the narrative that goes along with that worry will most likely not happen the way you see it! Now it can, especially if you spend a lot of time feeding those worry gremlins. I realized that all the time, energy, and bandwidth I WASTED on playing out those “what if” games of worry were just that a waste of my time and a huge distraction! It was just the devil trying to distract and consume me. It was the enemy trying to stop me from achieving God’s will for my life. Praise Jesus that He is stronger than the devil.

Before Austin and I got married, we had a pretty big argument about the FUTURE. I mean years in the future. We were arguing about bridges we weren’t even near crossing yet. I was worried and obsessed that one of my fears with him was going to play out. My fear was that if this plays out, our relationship would be over. It is important to highlight my behavior here. I was trying to control and protect our relationship instead of offering and releasing our relationship to God and allowing Him to do His will in it. Job did the same thing with his children. I had not yet become one with God. I had not allowed His nature and my nature to become one, especially in the area of my love life.

When His thoughts become your thought, you are spiritually changed. When His ways become your ways, you are spiritually changed.

Now, mind you, this is before I knew the Lord like I do now. Anyway, we got into some nasty arguments over this topic and the hypothetical what-if events. Still, the issue was real because I focused on conceptualizing my fears as realities or actual possibilities. Well, guess what?! When it came time for that fear to “play out,” the entire situation changed by 180-degrees. We fought for nothing! Literally, it all worked out. One reason I believe it worked out is that I started to trust God with the situation. I asked for His will to be done, and I asked for Him to be glorified through it. I became one with Him and reminded myself that I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4;13). If God wanted the “thing” I feared to happen, I knew He would make it worth my time and give me everlasting peace to handle it. God only gives us life. He will use suffering and temptation to refine us, but that refinement gives us life!

In 2019 when I was on the journey to surrender my worries to God and retrain my brain to trust God, that was my biggest takeaway. Things do work out when you trust, believe, and become one with the Father (Romans 8:28). It all works out when you trust God, but you must give up your life to glorify the Lord. The second part of my statement is vital! Jesus said it himself in Matthew!

For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it (Matthew 16:25).

In closing, where do you need to become one with the Father? Where do you need to make His thoughts about something your thoughts? It will take time, but God is outside of Newton-time. Therefore, it might take you a few seconds to a few days. Or maybe it’s a place where you are in bondage, and if that’s the case, it can take longer to walk out of – but remember, all things are possible with God. Anytime I have been in a place of bondage and chose to start walking out of it, I walked out of so much more than what I thought I would. Plus, look at it this way: If you start now, you will be further on the journey away from said bondage in 30-days from now. Please don’t wait. Start now!

Prayer: Father God, thank You for your love and everlasting peace. I come to You in prayer, asking for Your help to get free from my worries, fears, and anxieties. I know worry is a waste of time, but I don’t have the revelation. Father, I ask the Holy Spirit to give me that revelation to get free from worry. On days where worry is really consuming me, I pray that You quickly help me see the enemy’s ways so I can shift my focus back to You. As I set off to face my fears and grow more in You, I ask that You reveal to me more of Your love. For Your perfect love saves me from fear. Holy Spirit, please comfort me and whisper scripture to my Spirit man as I face my fears in the Father’s strength. Father, I surrender to You all my fears, worries, anxieties, and stressors. I pray that You help me to only seek and desire Your will for my life. If I am doing anything that is against Your will, please change my heart. Help me to give you all of me! In Jesus’ name, Amen.