Survival Secret #5: Give Yourself Grace
Part 5of 6 Survival Secrets to Successfully Battling the Storm
By: Elizabeth L. Creecy
God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God.
Ephesians 2:8 NLT
You are not going to do everything right. You will mess up. You will make mistakes. You may even try to get God to move by doing good works instead of through your faith.
Stop believing you have to be perfect or do something right to be worthy or used by God! That kind of thinking will cause you to drown in bondage. Thinking like that is proof that you agree with the devil’s lies, not the Father’s truth or Word. Remember, no human being is perfect.
God knows you are not perfect. He doesn’t ask YOU to do things perfectly. Instead, God asks you to trust Him and live according to His Word. God wants you to be obedient to Him, not your excuses. Within that request, He asks you to give yourself and others the same grace He gives you!
God wants you to be kind to yourself. He does not want you to belittle or hate yourself.
You are going to have days where you do accidentally make a mistake. Or maybe God humbles you, and your eyes become open to your pride or some other shortcoming in your flesh that the Holy Spirit is working out of you. When God convicts you where your flesh is dominant, don’t get upset. Instead, rejoice! Yes, maybe you will feel deep sadness by this conviction. That’s a good thing. That means you care, and you want to do it God’s way.
We all have blind spots. When the Holy Spirit illuminates that blind spot inside you, rejoice because God is helping you become righteous! There are so many marvelous things that occur when the Father does this, and you feel this conviction because only the Holy Spirit can change you. It’s that conviction that goes right down to your belly that will help you renew your mind to doing something the way God encourages it to be done instead of how the world screams it should be done. That conviction is what is necessary for you to break up with that self-righteous way of thinking.
Maybe you responded with worldly thinking or had a lapse in judgment. That is okay. You are not perfect. You are a human. I will keep saying that because it is so crucial that you understand that you will fall short or mess up at times. Again, that’s okay.
What is not okay is when you choose not to listen to the Holy Spirit’s conviction. What is also not okay is when you decide to criticize yourself, hate yourself, inflict pain or punishment on yourself, wallow in your self-pity, or respond with anything other than grace. You have the mind of Christ, and if you have a relationship with Christ, then you know He would not put you down. He might correct you humbly and with love, but He will never shame you or be mean to you.
If Jesus will give you grace, and the Father will provide you with His grace, then why aren’t you giving yourself grace? Do you think you are better than the Godhead?
It doesn’t matter if you see it or not. When you fail to give yourself grace, you believe that your opinion is more important than what God says about you, and that is self-righteousness at the very best. When you start depriving yourself of grace, you encourage antichrist thinking inside of you! And you know what happens?
That storm you are walking in picks up speed and power. Everything will start to become worse, harder, more overwhelming, and the Spirit of Fear will gain leverage. You will feel discouraged, afraid, anxious, and weak because you are surrendering your God-given authority over to the demonic forces.
Now watch out because if you struggle with an Unloving Spirit and the Spirit of Self-Pity, then know they are potentially coming to knock on your thought door too! And oooooh, those spirits are ugly and mean! These spirits are going to tell you that you are not loved by God, by your family, friends, or even by yourself. They will say God cannot use you and tell you your life is pretty much over! Specifically, Self-Pity will try to make you feel bad about yourself and encourage you to wallow in the woes of me. Psh, what a literal lie from hell! Stop it! Break it off, now in Jesus’ name!
Be the Warrior for Christ you are in your spirit and rise up declaring what God says about you!
The power living inside of you is mightier than all of the demonic forces in the world combined. You are going to have to break agreement with those Spirits by saying what God says about you! It’s okay if you don’t know the verse verbatim; just say what is in your heart.
Now, if those spirits challenge you, don’t get in an argument with them. Instead, tell them you will go look up the verse, and while you put your finger on that address, with your God-given authority, tell them to get their crap and go! They can’t stay. Break agreement with them and repent for even agreeing in the first place.
It’s important to remember sometimes Spirits come and train you to think a certain way and leave, and other times they are still within you. These spirits may try to come back because you are choosing to agree with lies that you aren’t good enough, worthy enough, or capable. Or your mind might produce those thoughts the Spirits trained you to think! But God says YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS YOU (Phil. 4:13).
What Paul is telling us in Philippians 4:13 is you can do all things which are in God’s will for you to do. Guess what? It’s in God’s will for you to show yourself unconditional love and grace. How many times does the Bible say to love?
Well, I tell you that I have never counted. Still, my quick internet search says that the word “love” is mentioned 442 times in the King James Version (KJV) and the New Living Translation (NLT) mentions it 759 times. The difference in number is due to certain words not translating directly into the word “love.”
My point is that God wants you to love everyone, and that includes yourself. Start showing up and responding with love in all things!
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love (1 Cor. 13:13 KJV).
Paul tells you that love is the greatest of the graces because it is most helpful to others and God. Love allows you to be others-centered, not self-centered. Yes, loving yourself allows you to show up more for others because you are not obsessively focusing on yourself, acting like the world or God’s kingdom revolves around you! The opposite of love is hate, and hate comes from the devil, and all things that come from the devil rob you from life! Stop it!
Give yourself grace.
When you give yourself grace, do you know what you are doing? You are permitting yourself to be a human, make mistakes, not be perfect, and grow in Christ. Giving yourself grace is giving yourself the permission to be as you are, with the understanding that you are still walking things out.
We are all walking something out. Now the size of it might vary, but as Paul says, we all fall short of the glory of God (Rom. 3:32). It’s in our weakness that Christ’s power is made perfect (2 Cor. 12:9). Choose to let Christ’s power rest on you!
You cannot make decisions with the information you do not have. You can only make decisions with the information you have at that time and with the guidance of God. Sometimes you will make bad decisions. Even if you pray and acknowledge the Lord in all things (Prov. 3:6), you will have to take a leap of faith at some point.
You might be unsure what God is really asking you to do, so you step out in faith. Guess what? You might leap on to the wrong path. That’s okay. Pray to God. Ask for His guidance to be clearer, repent for the miss-step, and once you hear what He is asking of you, move.
This world is harsh. Please don’t make it more difficult by being a jerk to yourself. God is made stronger through your weakness. The Bible doesn’t say that God blesses the proud, arrogant, or people who believe they are all that and a bag of chips. It says the opposite:
But He gives more grace. Therefore He says:
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”
(James 4:6 KJV)
You see, my Warrior, God’s grace is what benefits you. God’s grace enables you to resist the devil, to draw closer to Him, to weep when you sin or act doubleminded. God’s grace is what saves, but God does not want you criticizing yourself in His grace because that too is doublemindedness.
You cannot serve two masters (Matt. 6:24) and accepting God’s grace and beating yourself up is straddling the line of light versus darkness. Accept God’s grace and allow yourself to breathe. Forgive yourself for messing up. Rejoice in the opportunity to grow and learn from your mistakes. For it is God that blesses you to cleanse your hands, purify your hearts and minds.
Part of humbling yourself is learning how to give yourself grace and forgive yourself as the Father does. It’s also part of surviving the storms that the enemy brings. As you continue to walk in godly humility to humble yourself, God will exalt you!
Survival Secret #5 might be the most important one for you to remember. It’s the one that can help you keep the peace that Jesus has given you. Choosing to provide yourself with grace amid hardship will help you continue renewing your mind to God’s ways.
It’s effortless to hate on yourself. It’s incredibly easy to do what the world encourages when you feel you have messed up or are facing a storm because you are afraid. But God makes the foolish things the wisdom of the world (1 Cor. 1:20). Beating yourself up will only fuel the storm because the storm is not coming from God. Yet sometimes, it can be encouraging to remember that your life storms are what will put you on your God-given path! God can redeem everything if you let Him. If God is for you, who can be against you? I hope it’s not you!
Father God, Wow! Thank You for your amazing grace. Thank You for sending Your only begotten Son. Jesus, thank You for Your selflessness and obedience to Your Father. I know that I don’t always do things the way You encourage. I know I don’t always give grace to myself or others, but I am asking You to help me better give and receive grace. Please help me to be obedient to Your Word in everything I do. Please help me keep my eyes on You, not on my feelings, antichrist thoughts, or what the world screams. If I am doing anything against Your will for my life, please recorrect me and make my path straight as Your Word says. Thank You for all my blessings. Thank You for loving me. Thank You for softening my heart and developing my character to be more like Your Son, Jesus. In Jesus’ name, Amen.